There are no two alike women in this world. However, doing categorisation is sometimes useful (or fun) to do.
When you befriend someone, do you unconsciously categorise him or her as belonging to a group? Sometimes, I do.
So I begin to ask myself: what about the girls that guys date? Every girl is different, but is there any typical ‘girlfriend’ group that they belong to?
Let’s find out.
Here are my 13 types of girls that guys date, and because I’m a fan of movies, for each of the type I’ll make reference to a movie character.
Type 1: The Fashionista
Miss Fashionista is quite self-explanatory. This is the girl who loves shopping, dresses in fancy designers’ clothes, and yes, has a good sense of fashion. She almost always wears high heels and make up, and never gets caught having that horrible just-woken-up look from bed. She is likely to dictate her partner’s sense of style, and generally, she has high expectations on guys.
This type of girl is sometimes selfish, but she is so good-looking that if you’re a girl, you want to look like her, and if you’re a guy, you want to be throwing your arms around her shoulder.
Pros: Your parents love her, and your friends envy you for having such a beauty by your side. She always smells good, and somehow it boosts your pride level. She is usually friendly and bubbly, and you almost always skip a beat when you fetch her to a date, as she is always attractive. She is skinny and charming.
Cons: Your dates usually include malls, and you constantly end up listening to her frequent complaints about how their feet hurt due to wearing high heels for too long. She buys clothes for completing her collection, not because she needs another pair of jeans. Your bank account is drained quickly, and sooner or later she is going to make a quick makeover on how you dress. You need to constantly remind her that money doesn’t grow on trees.
Type 2: The Playgirl
Miss Playgirl has every aspect of a perfect girl. She is beautiful, attractive, charming, and has a good sense of humour. She is perfectly capable of making a guy feels wanted. She is somewhat fashionable, and she has many friends, especially males. She knows that so many people admire her, and she’s playing with each of them – taking their hearts one time and dumping them on the next. Only, she does it so cleverly that you feel like you’re the one who’s doing something wrong.
This type of girl is never satisfied with her partner, and always craving for a better one.
Pros: Your friends envy you for being able to have such a perfect girl. Your parents might not like her, but you deny every opinion that they have. You are proud to be standing next to her, for every guy admire her beauty and bubbly personality. She is a dependent type and guys like it. Admit it, you like to know that you’re needed. In sum, she makes you feel like you’re her everything.
Cons: Your friends talk behind your back about her being such a player. You feel confused at her change of mood – happy in one minute and mad in the other. She goes to you when she needs anything, but forgets you when she doesn’t need you. In time, you feel like you’ve been used, and if you don’t keep up to her expectations, she’s going to dump you for the next ‘perfect’ guy that she’s been texting for the last three months during your relationship.
Type 3: The Nerd
Miss Nerd is the genius type. She is able to give opinions to almost anything, and she spends her free time reading novels. She doesn’t necessarily hate fashion, but she doesn’t give much attention towards it. She’s usually kind, but her studies come first – anything else comes second. She is likely to have high dreams, and when she fails academically, she finds her sense of self being diminished.
This type of girl secretly envies other ‘normal’ girls, although she claims that she doesn’t have any interest in love nor relationship at the moment.
Pros: This type of girl is quite easy to be wowed, if you know the right moves. She doesn’t want another nerdy type of guy to be near her, so if you have a good sense of humour and can make her laugh, you’ll win her heart. Your parents like her for she’s decent and well-mannered, and she has a bright future. She’s the loyal type, and her intellectual reasoning will make you look one level up among the professionals, and she’s a good supporter towards your career.
Cons: Your friends don’t really like her, because she’s boring and doesn’t like to watch movies. It may be even true that your friends find it hard to communicate with her, for all she talks about is the latest book she read or her future dreams. She is a bit conservative in her thinking, so it’s hard to be spontaneous around her. She’s usually not interested in sports and doesn’t tolerate your high addiction to games. She might even scold you for wasting time.
Type 4: The Motherly
Miss Motherly is likely to be a good mother to your children, and she has wisdom beyond her age – as if she has already acquired that sense of maturity years before she actually needs it. She thinks ahead, and she plans her life early on. She is quite conservative, and has a set of values to draw back when she is in the middle of a crisis. She usually likes children. She is a good listener towards her friends, and she always knows the right thing to say to those in problem.
This type of girl doesn’t really care what others think, for she is mature enough to decide things on her own.
Pros: If you accidentally make mistakes, she is there to tell you that you’re wrong, and gives advices to make sure you’re back on track. She is going to be a terrific mother one day, and your parents love her. Her friends tell you that she’s a keeper. She has everything prepared: lunchbox, spare keys, spare light bulbs, spare batteries. She is tidy and organised; she knows the places of everything. In sum, she’s a very reliable person.
Cons: If you are not yet looking for a wife material, this girl may wreck your brain because she doesn’t really want to do anything pointless for the sake of having fun. It might be hard to please her, and her scolds might remind you of your mother – not a terrific reminder to begin with. Your friends silently wonder why you date her. You might even develop a low sense of self esteem because she aces you in everything she does, mostly due to her level of maturity.
Type 5: The Feminine
Miss Feminine is quite hard to be described because most guys have different sets of explanations of what they think of a feminine girl. Nevertheless, she usually likes to wear skirts, not shorts, and she has old-fashioned dress style. She likes nude colours, and has a very soft heart. She may be a little bit sensitive, but she is kind and gentle. She is a great cook, and her favourite drink is tea instead of coffee.
This type of girl is sweet and pretty, and a little bit quiet.
Pros: Your friends envy you, and your parents love her. You are proud to be her partner, because she always looks good. She is kind and she listens to your every complaint and ranting, and does her job well as a supporter in a relationship. She cooks you fancy meals, and she doesn’t like to trouble you to fetch her up from some strange places if you literally can’t make it. Well, she understands.
Cons: She doesn’t like sports, or if she does, she likes swimming and yoga. She pays quite a good deal of attention on how she looks, and she doesn’t really like hiking, camping, skiing, or making a fool of herself. She likes to have good conversations, thus if you are a gamer or an adventurous type yourself, it is quite hard to find common ground. Sometimes you can be fed up of her ‘too girlish’ style of life.
Type 6: The Adventurous
Miss Adventurous loves what most guys love. She is the sporty one, and she will be overjoyed to be having a date which consists of hiking or camping, or fishing or doing something new. She doesn’t really care about how she dresses, and she doesn’t have any problem in getting her hands dirty. She might have more male than females friends, because face it, most girls do not like what she likes to do. She likes to travel, and she watches science fiction movies and thinks that they are cool.
This type of girl is a lot of fun to be with, and she can jump in to guys’ conversations rather easily.
Pros: Your friends think that she is the coolest thing on earth. Odds are she is a gamer herself, or at least has some knowledge in games, and that fancies you. She accompanies you to your sports events, and she doesn’t mind of having a KFC dinner instead of eating out at those fine-dining restaurants. She doesn’t spend much time in front of the mirror, and she will not leave you waiting for another 30 minutes just to change her clothes for the nth time.
Cons: In time, you might want to date someone more ‘feminine’. You know, someone who dresses in skirts and high heels instead of shorts and sandals. You would love her to cook dinner for you, but sometimes she just doesn’t bother to do so. She has many male friends, and that might make you jealous – after all, she has similar interests with other boys more than with other girls. She is quite hard to please with the romantic ways, making you need to bring your deepest creativity in order to wow her.
Type 7: The Ambitious
Miss Ambitious is the typical leader in your relationship, not you. She is the one who takes the wheel, and she prioritises her work life more than anything. She has grand dreams, and to some people she might be the obnoxious type who is selfish and mean. She works hard, too hard perhaps, that she ends up having few true friends. She will have high expectations to those she is close with, and she might befriend you because you are in some ways advantageous to her.
This type of girl is thirsty for success, and can never tolerate failure.
Pros: She is so clever and professional that you would have tons of things to brag about her. She is independent, thus you don’t really need to fetch her from and to everywhere, she can take care of herself. She will make you grow in terms of your professionalism, and keep the bar high for you to succeed even better in life.
Cons: She is hard to maintain, and she is not going to submit under your leadership, after all, she’s the alpha tigress. She has high expectation on you, making you feel somewhat intimidated at times. She might not prioritise you, and she has little interest in what others think of ‘what a normal relationship should be like’. She is hard to open up, and gaining her trust might be a pain in the ass.
Type 8: The Low Self-Esteem
Miss Low Self-Esteem usually has tons of talents. She is attractive, but she doesn’t believe so. She is a bit shy, and she doesn’t believe that she can be great like others. She thinks that she will never get what she wishes for, that she is good for nothing. She is sensitive, and she is very sensitive with issues surrounding failure.
This type of girl constantly needs reassurance of your love – that she’s precious.
Pros : She is a decent girl, and she has a lot of potential. She truly loves you, and she is honest with you no matter what. She cares for you, and she is a very good listener and supporter.
Cons: She needs constant reassurance that you love her. You need to tell her that everyday. She is not confident with her skills, and it’s your job to convince her otherwise, for she doesn’t know where to begin with. She thinks negatively, and sometimes it can be quite depressing if you also have problems yourself.
Type 9: The Neighbour’s-Grass-is-Greener
Miss Neighbour’s-Grass-is-Greener compares a lot. She is not easily satisfied with life, and she likes to make everything to be perfect according to her way. She is a bit selfish, and even though she intends no harm in her ranting, she annoys other people. She gets jealous easily with other people who have better boyfriends, better jobs, and in sum, better lives than her.
This type of girl is hard to be with, especially when she is not pleased with anything she has.
Pros: She is not harmful, and even though she compares you a lot with her exes or her friends’ boyfriends, she is usually the loyal type. She usually doesn’t mean to leave you, she just wishes you to change for the better. She will motivate you to level up.
Cons: She compares her life with others a lot. She is not satisfied with her life, and she might throw tantrum at you. If you are not the person she wants you to be, she will start telling you what to do. She might forget all the good things you do when you do one mistake, and keep on telling you that ‘other people’ will never do that mistake.
Type 10: The Possessive
Miss Possessive wants to know everything about you – from what you eat for breakfast, brunch, lunch, tea-time, dinner, to supper. She wants to know your activity 24/7, and she gets jealous pretty easily. Crying is her specialty, and she will try to make herself looks helpless, and thus in consequence making you feel bad and try to fulfill her every need. She is clingy and dependent, and she limits your freedom.
This type of girl makes you feel so wanted, but face it, most guys can’t tolerate being chained.
Pros: She tells you everyday that she loves you, and she attends to your every need, making you happy in the progress. She tries (too) hard to be the kind of girl you want, and she wants to know all your friends, even though usually for the wrong reasons.
Cons: She robs your every freedom, and she cries if you decide to spend three hours watching that soccer game with your friends instead of watching Twilight with her. She texts you once in every five minutes during the day, and calls you for two hours before you go to sleep. She doesn’t want you to have any other female friend, and she is quite sensitive. If you don’t like to be told what to do (like most guys), you pretty much will be trying to break free at the slightest opportunity.
Type 11: The Innocent
Miss Innocent believes in almost everything, and she will be likely not realising any hidden agenda of others. She is sweet, and guys can fall in love with her easily due to her cute personality. She is kind to everyone, even though sometimes she’s just being used. She is usually quite slow in picking up new concepts, but that’s what unique about her.
This type of girl usually has many friends who love her and want to protect her from the crocodile guys that want to take advantage of her.
Pros: She’s such a sweetheart, and your parents like her. You love those innocent comments, for she’s still pure and different from the dark side of the world. She’s usually a positive person, and she is a good listener towards your problem. She is kind and gentle, and loves to smile.
Cons: In time you’ll hate her innocent comments, because she’s so slow in picking up new concepts. You need to repeat the story three times before she actually gets the point, and that drives you mad. Her innocence may soon become her negative attribute, and you want someone who’s more intellectual and mature to talk to.
Type 12: The Prom Queen
Miss Prom Queen is the best at everything. She is beautiful, social, lovely, friendly, and has that charisma that everyone talks about. She has a lot of friends, and she can do everything, from music, sports, to academic studies. She is kind to everyone, and she is likely to be a committee in every social event. Everyone knows her name and her reputation. In sum, she may be the closest being to perfection.
This type of girl is highly attractive, and she has lots of guys queuing for her.
Pros: Your friends envy you, and your parents love her. She is the perfect girl seen from the public’s eyes, and everyone tells you how lucky you are to have her. She is supportive and kind, and she is usually creative.
Cons: If you have a low sense of self-esteem, in time you will feel like you’re not on the same level as her. You feel like the public is accusing you for having her, because sometimes, sometimes you think that she deserves someone better. You feel like her shadow, and it frustrates you to date her because she has ruined your sense of pride. She’s kind to everybody, including the guys, and that can make you get jealous pretty easily.
Type 13: The Keeper
Miss Keeper is any combination of all possible types of girls. She is attractive, funny, and kind. Well, at least from your glasses she is. She is loyal and committed. She is beautiful in your eyes, and she supports you.
This is the type of girl you can spend the rest of your life with.
Pros: Your friends envy you, and your parents are happy for you. Occasionally she makes mistakes, but she has way to apologise to you; for she has the courage to say that she’s wrong. She is a keeper, for everyone tells you so.
Cons: You’ll fall in love.
Disclaimer: each of these types of girl is drawn from real people on whom I’ve met and mingled. But for privacy’s sake, let’s keep them down to movie characters. And to clear any biases for this article is written by a girl, I have consulted with Adam’s descendants and they agree with my list.
Which type of girl are you? Or which type of girl are you dating? Do you agree on my list?